You hear people talk a lot about not wanting to waste time, and how "time is of essence", yet so many people spend their time engaging in fights and arguments that are going nowhere. Have you ever engaged in an argument, even though you knew going into it that you were never going to find resolution? This happens every day on social media, and more than often in families, social communities, and friend groups. It is a trap that many people fall into because of the need to be right. We think by explaining "our side" it will be obvious to understand and everyone will be on the same page. Wrong... Listening more and talking less can help to shift the perspective and bring deeper understanding because we don't always hear what is really being said. Fighting for your view oftentimes comes out of defensiveness, comes with anger, and is not received as intended. Doors end up closing instead of opening, and the original intention of clarity is completely missed. Sometimes the person with the best intentions ends up looking like a monster by fighting a battle that will never have an ending.
Have you ever looked back at an argument that changed everything and wondered, "How did this even get started?". The perspective when the heat is turned off is that we should have never engaged in the fight to begin with. How many times have you gone into a conversation with the best intentions, only to end up in a huge fight, ending the friendship, or never talking to the person ever again? Was it really worth it? We see it on a political scale dividing our country more and more each day, so, how do we know when the battle is really worth fighting?
First of all, how important is the topic to you? If it is about something that really matters, then it is worth the time and energy to find common ground? If you are arguing for the sake of arguing and only continuing to prove yourself right, then it is an energy draining conversation. Secondly, how important is the person you are arguing with to you? If it is someone you have never met before, then is it really important to spend all of that time fighting with them? When it is someone you have known for a very long time, is the topic a "make it or break it" deal? We weigh in all of these factors in a matter of seconds when the moment arrives to get into it with someone - or not. So when is it time to fight the big fight, and when is it time to walk away?
Personally, I have walked away from more arguments, fights, and relationships recently than my entire lifetime combined. This has completely shifted me in so many ways. Walking away can sometimes mean saving your life. When you feel threatened or attacked, either physically or emotionally, then it is time to move on. When there is one side taking all of the time while the other side is always giving, then it is time to make note of the trust level, the happiness level, and truth of what the relationship is really based on. Are you going in the same direction? Do you respect one another? Can you be honest with one another? Are the good times outweighing the bad? Who are you when you are with them, and is that person your authentic self? When the answers continue to come up the same, then you will have clarity in what the next step needs to be for you. In times of change, we are asked to continue to elevate. This means that our ability to choose peace over ego is vital in manifesting higher frequency friendships and relationships.
There is a time for forgiveness in every relationship, whether it continues or ends. Inner peace and resolution is like medicine for our health. No matter what battles you choose to fight and which ones you decide to walk away from, remember that this one life is limited to a number of breaths. Spend those sacred breaths on what matters most, and have the self-Love to let the rest go. You will find yourself so much Lighter, happier, and open to bringing in what makes you the best version of who you are inside and out. The Lighter we are, the higher we rise. Let Go & Get Higher!