Alzheimer's/Dementia dis-ease can affect behavior and personality. Some elderly people with this disturbance experience insomnia, agitation, or even hallucinations. My 82-year old mother has been living with us for the past two years, and this was when she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's/ Dementia. We have observed her decline through the years, and we understand that there is a way to navigate through this evolving shift that is graceful, kind, and compassionate. The more we have used these communication tools, the better the outcome has been. So what do the experts say about communicating with our elderly Loved ones who suffer from memory loss?
Since speech tends to decline in Alzheimer's/Dementia patients over time, and it becomes more and more difficult to organize one's words or even find the right words at all, we have to use our hearts to bring even more Loving support and care to the relationship. Making eye contact during a conversation offers a soul connection and keeps both parties present and in the moment. These people are not children, so don't treat them that way by talking about them when they are in the room, or by pulling away from them as a friend or support person just because they stop remembering every little detail of their lives. Instead, find ways to be helpful, take time to listen, and be patient when they are trying to speak. The worst thing we can do is be impatient, cold, angry, or tense with our words and behaviors. Never ask the person if they remember someone or something, don't argue, don't interrupt, and try not to answer for them. Taking the time and energy to be present can be very supportive and create an atmosphere for a positive interaction to take place. Love is the ultimate healer, and when we approach our Loved ones with an open and Loving heart, a better result is guaranteed to be attained.
As our Loved ones forget what they are frustrated about, angry with, or annoyed by, we are able to use distraction techniques that help to refresh the moment. A quick distraction can calm them down enough to reset the moment and try again with a new approach. Also, yes or no questions go over much better than open ended questions, and facial expressions say it all. Look for cues and other forms of communication, as these indications can really support our Loved ones and help to remove feelings of frustration, sadness, and stress. The more calm and at peace everyone is, the better the connection may be. Consistency in attitude, behavior, and daily routines are extremely helpful. Exercising daily, getting enough rest, and leaning in on one's strengths is also wonderfully supportive. With Love and care, all of our elderly friends and family members will feel safe and open to communicate in their own special ways.
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