RaMa Mama Doula Share: Trusting the Inner Wisdom...

First time mothers become the amazing women they are meant to be through the birthing process. Not everyone is able to give birth, but everyone can have that deep and meaningful experience of learning how to trust fully and completely. For a new mommy, they are not only trusting the process for themselves, but also for their unborn child. It can be frightening to enter the birthing process for the first time not knowing what is about to happen, but every new mother goes through it and comes out more powerful, wise, and illuminated.

The body is the most magical and miraculous mechanism. It is strong, resilient, and beautiful, and it has intuition, wisdom, and intelligence beyond understanding. Pregnant women are surrounded by people offering advice, opinions (both welcomed and unwelcomed), and fear-based programming daily. By the time the birthing day arrives, there are so many false ideas and worries circulating through the mind that it becomes easy to lean into the fear and forget to trust the wisdom of the body. What we need to remember is that all of the things that happen during the birthing process help the parents learn about the new baby and how to be a parent to that child. The choices made through birth and delivery, the faith in the body knowing what to do, and the confidence in being an amazing parent, all develop in the birthing process. There is no perfect pregnancy, no perfect birth, and no perfect delivery. Things happen, and the body responds to our thoughts and emotions through the ups and downs of the entire process.

It is easy to talk about being strong and not having fear when we are not giving birth ourselves, and much more challenging to go through such an extreme body, mind, emotion, and life shift, while staying open, flexible, and fearless. From fertility to pregnancy to childbirth to post-natal, each phase comes with an initiation and empowering lessons. Everyone's experience is so different - as each birth signifies the gifts and challenges of the new soul entering the world. The body holds the instruction manual inside with no ability to share it with the mind, so new mothers have to rely on their gut feelings, intuition, and inner guidance to help navigate through the unknown. Moms who are able to surrender to this process and let go of the need to control everything, find themselves learning and growing in an expansive way. New mothers who don't trust their bodies and have fear guiding their decisions, have much different lessons to learn. There is no right or wrong way to move through the birthing process, but the more the new moms are able to trust and follow the guidance of the body and the baby, the more peaceful and calm the experience can become. Every mother and every baby is so different, and this is why no one way works for all. With presence, Love, and an openness to learn and grow with the new baby, this amazing and miraculous process of birth can become a deep and expansive experience with the new soul and the entire cosmos.