RaMa Mama Doula Share: The Influence of Our Own Birth On The Birth of A Child...

How does our birth into this world directly affect giving birth to a child of our own later in life? Whether we arrived vaginally or cesarean, if we came out of an IVF process, or if we had trauma when we were adopted, there was a seed that was planted in us at birth. From the first breath on this planet until now, we hold records within us of every word and deed we have experienced in our atoms and cells. The birth we came into this world from is one of our karmic influences that directly impacts our future life experiences. Psychologically, the brain has cellular memory of both the positive and negative aspects of how we entered the world. If our mothers were stressed out, anxious, or experienced abuse during our time in the womb, we are also karmically influenced by those feelings. We may have had complications that led us to the emergency room, or our parents may not have been able to care for us properly after we were born. Whether we remember these things or not, they are etched into us on more subtle levels. When it comes to being pregnant and having a child of our own, the impact of our personal early-age experiences resurface during this time.

Scientifically speaking, cells known as microchimeras live inside of all of us and they come from our own birth and can be passed on to our future children. They influence our immune system and how our tissues repair themselves during pregnancy and childbirth. The brain also holds onto traumatic birth experiences and/or the emotional, mental, and physical wellness of our parents. The reflection on our own childhood makes us question what kind of parent we will become. Coming into this world is our only reference point for us to foresee what the future holds. Although remembering or learning about the past can be shocking or surprising, this topic naturally comes up during pregnancy because we are part of the great wheel of life. We have received both the gifts and the curses of those who came before us, and we will pass these on if we don't approach our lives with consciousness. We get to decide whether we will continue the cycles that we came into the world learning, or if we are going to take a detour and create a new pathway for our children's futures. Learning about where we came from and who and what our ancestor's are and have experienced is truly the key to unlocking a path to permanent healing. Talking about things we remember, asking our parents about the circumstances we entered the world with, and working with hypnosis, meditation, and dreams to work through that which we don't remember or cannot access can all be helpful in moving forward in a positive and healing way. The more we are able to process with acceptance and Loving support, the better we are going to be able to let go of the negative affects associated with past experiences. This is one of the important aspects of becoming a parent, and can help shape our abilities to move past the past in order to embrace the present and future.